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Early in 2021, just after turning 23, my partner began the process of coming out as nonbinary. For my partner, this means that they “feel like neither a man or woman, but somewhere in between”—hence their gender-neutral pronouns (they/them). This transition was the culmination of more than 10 years of , the clinically significant distress that can manifest when someone doesn’t exclusively identify with the sex they were assigned at birth. Only after a decade of self-reflection was my partner able to acknowledge the distress they were experiencing, identify it as gender dysphoria, accept that it wasn’t going to go away, and prepare to make the major life changes that transitioning can entail.

My partner isn’t an outlier—in fact, research shows that many transgender and nonbinary people report first coming out in adulthood. Interestingly, though, younger transgender and nonbinary people are coming out about their gender identity at than older transgender and nonbinary members of the same generation. The in the average ages at which transgender respondents report starting to “live in their affirmed gender”—which can include coming out—are even more dramatic. Similar trends are seen for youth coming out about their sexual orientation, both and .

But why are younger members of Generation Z coming out sooner in life than older members of the same generation, let alone members of earlier generations? While the literature on this subject is still limited, interviews with LGBTQ youth often reflect a : the internet.

The explore their identities and come out by helping them access information about sexual orientation and gender identity, connect with other young people at various stages in the process of developing their own identities, and maintain a certain degree of anonymity when starting the process of coming out online.

While the internet was around when my partner first began to struggle with gender dysphoria, it was a of pop-ups, malware, and phishing scams, and only had high-speed access to it. The and the that followed truly changed the game. When my partner and I were eight years old, we were just using our family desktop computers to mess around on Microsoft Paint—and most Americans , so many children from the era never heard that they could identify as a member of the LGBTQ community. Now, nearly half of children between the ages of eight and 12 , which they can use to learn to accept themselves from online LGBTQ peers and role models.

To this day, though, not all LGBTQ youth benefit from internet access. A 2021 study found that nearly one-in-five parents of youth between the ages of eight and 18 reported that their family necessary for reliable internet service. While some lack residential broadband because the infrastructure has yet to reach their area, many go without due to the cost of connectivity, which averages nearly $70 per month in the U.S.—and that’s not counting “junk fees.”

Even LGBTQ youth who have consistent internet access may not feel safe to access LGBTQ-related information and communicate with LGBTQ peers on insecure websites, browsers, and messaging platforms—and they’re not wrong to fear that a could put information about their sexual orientation and gender identity into the wrong hands.

But our society is actively regressing when it comes to keeping LGBTQ youth connected, safe, and informed. More than 500 have been introduced in state legislatures so far this year, and at least 70 laws—many of which have targeted LGBTQ youth, with a particular focus on trans youth—have been enacted. In addition, several federal bills have been introduced that would, if enacted, harm LGBTQ youth online. One would , a critical safeguard for protecting everyone’s data, including that of LGBTQ youth. Another could push platforms to —which have long been to block content vital for LGBTQ youth—and expand the use of both invasive age verification requirements and parental monitoring controls, disregarding the fact that more than half of LGBTQ youth .

What can we do about all this? I can’t say for sure—there aren’t easy answers, and there are complex policy negotiations beyond the purview of this piece. But I do know a lot about the additional hardships my partner—who is now my spouse—has had to push through, all because they didn’t grow up with the resources to know earlier in life that they were transgender. I know that some LGBTQ youth today have it better than my spouse did, but not all—and for many, things are getting worse. Most importantly, I know that our goal as a society is to ease the load for generations that come after us. LGBTQ youth today should and could have it better than we did—and better than they do now. It’s our responsibility to find ways via policy and cultural norms to keep LGBTQ youth connected, safe, and informed online.